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Life Goes On (3) 继续努力 (三)



Round and round the mulberry bush I have been, and I’m still stuck here. My husband and I, we are still here. So now what? Where do I go from here? Is this the best it gets? It’s pathetic. There must be more than this, isn’t there?
我走着走着兜圈子,仍然陷在这里。我的丈夫和我,我们任然 空空如也。现在怎么办?真可悲。人生到底是什么? 生活不只是眼前的苟且还有诗和远方,不是吗?

Over the weekend, my husband bought himself a cheap mattress and a cheap hanging clothes rack. He shifted his ‘belongings’ out of the Master bedroom, and he started sleeping in the spare bedroom that was next to the common corridor. It was his way of protesting my wanting to leave him for Mr Dress-Very-Well. What did I expect? 😥 That we would pretend that nothing had happened? I felt hurt that he would ‘kick me out of his life’, but of course he must have felt the same when I wanted to leave him for Mr Dress-Very-Well. In any case, did it matter? That he did not want me, or I did not want him? Does it really matter? I did not ask him to come back to the Master bedroom, and I did not cry. Life goes on. Every morning ☀, we woke up, we got dressed for work and we left on our separate ways for breakfast and work. At night 🌛, I would eat dinner alone because he was never home in time for dinner. It was a quiet and peaceful time for both of us, because we were just roommates sharing a flat. But one thing did change: I did not hope to look for another white knight to be my saviour. In that period of my life, I willed myself to become more ‘thick-skin’, and I became one of those girls who could eat breakfast, lunch and dinner by myself. So what else was there to do? Most days and even on weekends, I was alone, going to work and coming back to an empty home. It was good that I had my rabbits, and I talked a lot to Pebbles. Thinking back, some things in life are just meant to be. Instead of going to night classes 📚 for upgrading, or spending my nights watching television 📺, or even joining a religious group for praying 🙏, you know what I did? Indeed, some things are just meant to be. I picked up the Feng Shui book that my mum had passed onto me. I decided that I would read it again. ✌ Because I still had to work overtime, I usually reached home at about 9pm. After a short rest, doing some simple housework, eating dinner and taking a shower, I usually had only 1 hour to read the book every night. 1 hour is not a lot, just ask anyone who ever had to work and study at the same time. It’s hard to absorb what is written. 😥 At most, you read the words, but the brain does not comprehend the sentences. The following night, I would feel bad because I could not remember what I had read the previous night, and so I spent the first few months of my Feng Shui journey reading and re-reading and re-reading Page 1 to Page 10. 😅🙃

我先生给自己买了一个便宜的床垫和一个便宜的挂衣架, 然后将自己的‘私人物品‘从主卧室搬到位于公共走廊旁边的客人房。他开始在那里睡觉。这是他抗议惩罚我想要离开他的方式。我期待什么?假装什么都没有发生?😥 我感到伤心我先生会’把我踢出他的生活’,但是想到我也不过如此想离开他那时候,他肯定也有同样的感觉。无论如何, 他不想要我,或我不想要他,事到如今, 还有关系吗? 我没有要求他回到主卧室,我也没有哭。 生活还是要继续。每天早上 ☀,我们睡醒,穿上衣服工作去,各自吃早餐然后去上班。晚上 🌛,我单独吃晚餐,因为先生还没有下班。对我们俩来说,这段日子安静又祥和,因为我们只是共住一套公寓的室友。唯有件事情很明确:我不再希望白马王子成为我人生的救世主。应为这个原因, 我鼓起勇气变‘厚脸皮’, 成为一个能独自吃早餐,午餐和晚餐的女孩。 除了日常生活,人生还有什么可以做的?我虽然结婚了, 每天每天都是孤身一个人,去上班然后回到空的房子。还好我有我的兔子们,我和‘小皮包Pebbles‘谈特别多。回想到那段日子,生活中的一些事情是’注定‘的。在重重的选择中, 我没去报名上夜校升级 📚,也没有成谜看电视 📺,也没有加入宗教团体祈祷 🙏。 读者们, 你们知道我做了什么吗?对了,有些东西真是’注定‘的,我重新拿起了我妈妈’传‘给我的风水书, 我想‘我再读一遍’吧! ✌ 不过, 这决心可真不容易做到。。。 工作加班,我通常晚上九点左右回到家。短暂休息一下,做一些简单的家务,吃晚餐和洗澡后,我只剩下有一个小时的时间阅读风水书。 只要问问曾经同时半工半读的就业人, 就知道一个小时时间很少,忙了一天真的很难吸收书本的内容, 最多只可说我阅读单词。 😥 到了第二个晚上,因为我记不起前一个晚上读过的东西, 所以我重新翻阅已经看过的。 读者们, 我的风水旅途就是阅读, 然后重新阅读, 再重新阅读风水书第一页到第十页! 😅🙃