Many people misunderstand that Feng Shui can work without help. In my Feng Shui journey, I have learnt to change my attitude from “I’m not sure it can be done” to “I will do what it takes”. Feng Shui is not just about placement of objects in the home, it also includes what a person must do to make Feng Shui work. In both of these ‘actions’, I will do what it takes! If at first glance, I cannot do what needs to be done, I will try to find a way around it. If a solution still cannot be found, I will accept that it cannot be done at the moment, and I move onto other things that I can do. I don’t get stumped and stop, whilst waiting for a solution to come up!

Here’s what I have learnt in this ‘I can do, I cannot do’ game in Feng Shui and in life:

(1) What I can do, I must do.

(2) What I cannot do, I will find a way to get it done. And I try my best to get it as close as what needs to be done.

(3) What I cannot do, and I have already tried my best at finding an alternative, I take it that it really cannot be done now. So I chuck it at the back of my mind.

(4) I always keep in mind that there is something yet to be done. In the meantime, I accept that I may not get what I want (because I have not done what needs to be done) and I just shut up about it. Of course I am upset, and I feel pained, but I shut up about it. Because it really cannot be done! What else is there to say when it really cannot be done?!

(5) if something really cannot be done, I will force myself to go do something else that can be done (even if it is a totally different and unrelated matter). I use the word ‘force’ because I am just an ordinary person, of course I feel discouraged, and I want to give up. Life is too hard!

Writing about ‘Feng Shui Fish Tank’_____ made me think of an ex-colleague who quit his job to go set up his own company. I will tell you that entrepreneurship is not for everyone. It was a struggle being a small start-up, because you are competing against the big boys. He read about fish tanks being Feng Shui money magnets, and because we shared mutual friends, I felt obliged to go help him find his fish tank corner. Of course, there are a million excuses why the fish tank cannot be put in this corner, and another million excuses why the fish tank cannot be put in that corner. Whilst he was still stumped about where to put his fish tank, his only business partner pulled out of the partnership, and took the only customer along with him. Of course I am not saying that the lack of fish tank caused my ex-colleague’s ‘downfall’, but his attitude towards putting the fish tank was the same as his attitude towards his business:

“Are you sure the fish tank is necessary?” (Excuse me! You are the one who called me over to help with the fish tank?!)

“I’m not sure what I want to do.”

“I’m not sure it can be done.”

“Do you think I should do it?”

Whilst you are deliberating over whether it can be done, you should pro-actively be looking for alternatives to getting things done. Also, if you are too scaredy cat to  even try, remember that there are always braver cats out there who are willing to give it a shot! Read about ‘competition’ in _________.