When I first experimented with Feng Shui, I read that I had to activate the south-west of my home with crystals because it represented my relationship luck. I envied people who could always hang out in groups, and I felt that I was lacking in some way because I was not “in”. But as I got older, I realised that no matter how much I activated my south-west – as long as I wanted to belong to a group – I would need to spend time with people! Just because you want to belong to a group, it doesn’t mean that you go have lunch together, then proceed to have a coffee again (equivalent to 3-4 hours?!) with the same crowd! If you are able to grow and better yourself with the group, by all means, hang out together! But I have hung out with people who talk NON-STOP about their children, and their relationship problems. You think, gosh, this author is terrible, she is not sympathetic! I think once in a while, you can confide in your friends and listen to their advice, but at the end of the day, it is your life, it is your problem! So (1) don’t be the one whining about the problem, and (2) don’t be the one offering advice all day long. Doing either role drains you of your energy! Your time and your energy are very, very precious!