You know, my husband and I are at a stage in our lives where we can take a leap of faith and try to be more than ‘just ordinary’. It’s scary, I tell you! You know why? The money that we need to invest into this ‘leap of faith’, it’s all that we have in our bank account, and it’s all hard-earned. My husband saved every penny for use in our old age. What if we fail? We don’t have parents who will give us money, and we have no one to bail us out if we run into any trouble. We are risking it all, this move to become more than ‘just ordinary’. So why do it? The truth is: we never planned for any of this. Things just developed and it naturally came to this! We suffered in our younger days because we were always broke. We worked from morning till night, but there was just no money, no matter what we did!!! With good Feng Shui, things got better and better. At first it was not noticeable because we still had to keep working hard every single day. It was not that 1 million dollars suddenly dropped from the sky onto our laps! And then without realising it, today we are in a good place ***. Yeah, it looks like we are being greedy and wanting more, but it really isn’t. We can’t stay stagnant. Really.
我先生和我过得很好， 是真的！ 我们很难地终于爬上来了！ 现在，我们正处在我们生活的另一个阶段，我们可以尝试飞跃，尝试能不能超越‘普通人’这个阶段。 说真的， 我很害怕！ 为什么？ 我先生和我银行里的钱是辛苦赚来的， 而这‘尝试超越普通人这个阶段’是需要投资资金的 （当然啦！）。 如果我们失败怎么办？ 如你所知，我们父母不会给我们钱的。 多年以来， 没有人挺胸出来救我们。 我们从年轻到现在， 都是从早做到晚。 每天都是很努力， 很努力的过着。 起初，无论怎么做，我们都没有钱，后来应为我们让好风水实现，我们的状况变得越来越好。 今天，我先生和我处于一个好地方***。 所以说， 我们这‘尝试超越普通人这个阶段’， 我们算是在冒风险！ 那为什么还要做呢？ 事实是：我们从来没有计划过这一些， 走着走着， 就来到今天。 我们说是让好风水实现， 但事实上， 我们每天每天是坚持努力地过着。 我们夫妇俩的好风水并不是突然一百万元从天降到我们的双手！ （或许你让好风水实现后， 突然一百万元从天降， 这谁也说不定！ 发呀！ ）。 当然， 我了解在一些人的眼里， 我先生和我看起来是贪婪，但真的不是。 我发誓！ 我们只是不能停滞不前。
We worry. I worry whether my husband will continue to have the energy (and the luck) to keep working at his high-paying job. Because the whole family is dependent on him, he is under tremendous stress! He knows that he has become expensive to hire, and because we have our financial commitments, working in a lower-level or in a lower-paying job is not really an option. Even if he was willing to take a huge pay cut, the hiring company will consider because there are loads of young people who have the energy to do the job just as well.
我们俩担心。 虽然我没有说出口， 但我担心我先生有没有精神、能量（和运气）继续做他这份很大压力的工作。因为整家人都依赖他，他承受着极大的压力！ 他知道他是高薪雇员， 无论哪一个公司雇佣他， 成本很高。在这竞争日益激烈的世界， 每间公司都有预算。 况且， 我们已经有一定的财务开销， 所以要他换去较低薪的工作并不是选择。 即使我先生愿意大幅减薪，招聘公司也会考虑，因为有很多年轻人也能胜任那份工作。
Then there is me. It was my childhood ambition to stay home to cook and clean, and be a loving wife to my husband who works hard in the office all day. But I never thought that at 47 years old, I’ll suffer from stiff shoulders and painful joints. It sounds like I’m trying to worm my way out of doing housework, LOL, and yeah, it probably is! I’m so sick of doing housework. All these never-ending cooking and cleaning – I HATE IT!!!
我小时候的愿望是留在家里， 做我先生的爱妻，我想： 我的先生整天在外努力工作， 回家后有一个温暖的安乐窝， 哇！ 好舒服呀！ 我们涌入爱河， 从此爱到老。 但我从没想过每天做饭和打扫卫生竟然这么累人！ 我还没五十岁， 不过我的肩膀僵硬， 我的关节疼痛！ 痛死我！！！ 这听起来好像我懒惰， 想摆脱做家务。。。哈哈， 或许吧！ 总之， 我厌倦做家务！ 这永无止境的烹饪、 清洁、 烹饪、 清洁、 烹饪、 清洁 – 我受够了！！！
We also never considered that one day, his parents would be too frail to look after themselves. Yah, we knew that PEOPLE WILL GROW OLD, but what this really means is that Mother started to have bad knee problems, and so she did not want to clean their flat anymore. Their place became really filthy! There is a thick layer of dust on everything! It became a hazard for her to cook because she can’t see the flames on the stove. Did she turn off the stove fire, or she didn’t? She is easily distracted by the tv, and she has to hobble quickly to the stove when she smells her own cooking burning. I have lost count of the times we had to help her scrub her charred pots.
And without realising it, they only have $50k left in their bank account. Having no private insurance coverage just adds to their (and our) money worries.
我们也从未考虑过，有一天，他的父母会因为太过虚弱而无法照顾他们自己。 是的，是的， 我们都知道人会老，但这真正意味着妈妈开始出现膝盖问题，她不想打扫他们的公寓了。 他们的家变得非常肮脏， 到处都有一层厚厚的灰尘！ 因为妈妈眼睛也变得衰弱， 她看不到炉子上的火焰也成了问题， 烹饪根本是一种危险！ 她到底有没有关掉火炉？ 妈妈也应为记忆变得不好， 容易被电视上的节目分散注意力， 只有闻到自己的烹饪燃烧时，她才迅速地蹒跚地走向炉子， 把火炉熄灭。 我们回家探望他们时， 不知帮她擦洗多少个烧焦的锅！
在没有意识到的情况下，他们的银行账户只剩下五万元。 他们没有私人保险，也没有什么值钱的首饰。 唯有他们居住的那间四房式组屋， 但卖房子不是重点， 重点是他们卖了房子， 新的地方任然没有人帮他们做卫生， 没有人帮忙他们煮饭呀！
We never saw the need for our parents to upgrade themselves. So all these years, we never pushed for them to go for those upgrading courses organised by our community centres. Is there an urgent need for a jobless old man, and an elderly housewife to learn new technology? Nobody saw any real need for them to do that when they were 50 years old, and neither when they were 60 years old. Then suddenly we are all living under the same household again after all these years apart, and now that they are both 80 years old, we realise that they can’t use the laser control of our LG television. How to turn on the tv, how to adjust the volume and how to change tv channels using that laser red-dot is impossible for the elderly!!! Mother also does not know how to use the wireless house phone, and she doesn’t know how to use a mobile phone. She can’t go to the new food court because she doesn’t know how to use the food ordering machine! She can’t stand in line to pay for groceries because of her very bad knees, yet she can’t self-checkout because she doesn’t know how to use the self check-out machines, and she also doesn’t know where to slot the money in a change-dispensing machine at the check-out!!!
Our healthy Father suddenly had a massive heart attack and he became a frail old man. My husband never planned for the money to hire a maid so soon, but he had to, because his wife (me!) was on strike. I was determined not to clean up after 1 big baby husband and 2 big baby elderly!!! NO, THANK YOU VERY MUCH!!! Seeing the way that things are going now, it looks like we may need to hire 2 maids! One maid just can’t cope!!!
父母亲需要提升吗？ 我们从未看到什么必要。 你想， 一位没有做工的老人和一位朴素的家庭主妇学习新技术来干什么？ 所以这些年来，我们没积极推动他们老人家参加我们联络所组织的升级课程。 在老人家五十岁时，我们没有看到这个必要， 在他们六十岁时我们更没有看到什么必要！ 突然间， 我们一家人再次生活在同样的屋檐下， 啊！ 怎么他们连开关家中的LG激光电视也不会？ 以前是按钮，现在是看镭射的红点罢了， 有那么难吗？？？ 妈妈不会使用无线的家用电话， 也不会使用手机。 她不能去现代的美食阁用餐，因为她不会使用食品订购机！ 她的膝盖不好， 她不能排队购买杂货，但她也不会使用自助结账机器， 也不会在自动根换零钱的机器插入钞票！ 天啊！ 怎么会变成这样？！
我们健康的父亲突然心脏病发作，变成一个衰弱的老人。我先生可头大， 应为他从来没有计划过这么快就雇佣女佣。 没办法呀， 谁叫他的妻子（我！）罢工。 不行啦！ 我不想照顾他们三个大婴儿！不，我坚持我不要，谢谢你们！看情况， 我们可能需要雇佣两个女佣！一个女佣根本无法应付！
By the time we realised all of these, we have grown accustomed to our lifestyle. It’s super when my husband’s salary is amongst the top 15% bracket in Singapore. I did not think much about spending his money, because as I said in ***, I feel that it is a wife’s right to use her husband’s money. And in ***, I also tell you that feeling no remorse about spending what is rightfully yours is also how you Make Feng Shui Work!
So now that my husband and I are suddenly thrown into this game-changing plan, and all these expenses are sprouting out of nowhere… boy, should I be regretting having spent all that money?!
正如我所写的， 我们从来没有计划过这一些， 走着走着， 就来到今天。如今， 当我们意识到，哦， 原来我们还有更长的路可以走， 我们已经习惯了我们的生活方式。 我先生呀， 他的工资在新加坡的前百分之十五。 应为我们驾的车是普通车， 我们住的是政府组屋， 而且我们没有孩子， 所以谈到花钱， 我非常舍得！ 况且我在***中也说： 妻子花先生的钱是理所当然。 我在***解释， 要让好风水实现，你花这份钱时，千万不要觉得内疚。这就是让好风水实现最重要的窍门！
现在我们倆陷入这个改变游戏规划的情况， 突然间这些费用贸贸跑出来。。。 我在想： 我应该后悔以前花那么多钱吗？！
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But you know what? Everyone worries! Even ultra-rich people worry, except that they worry on a different scale. I don’t think that rich people just sit around and twiddle their thumbs, do you ?
但你知道吗？每个人都会担心！ 是真的！ 超级富豪也会担心， 只是他们担心的事件和我们担心的事件不同，担心的规模也比较大。 比如说， 超级富豪已不再担心支付他们第一间房子的抵押贷款， 他们担心是否有钱供他们名下整栋大楼的贷款。 但我们普通人（有些）还在养我们居住的住所！ 几时才会还完？！
People who say that we are all passing through life here, and therefore we don’t have to worry… well, they are being unreal! We are ordinary people with ordinary thoughts, leading ordinary lives. We are not at that enlightened level, and it does not look like we will have the time – at anytime soon – to sit down and to contemplate about ‘the true meaning of life’. We are too busy living our lives to think about why we are living our lives!!!
有些人说我们在这世界短短几十年，所以不必担心。。。 那是他们啦！ 我们是普通人，过着平凡的生活。 我们没有‘看破’， 也不处于那种‘水平’。 我们人生还是要过，工作要做， 屋子要养，孩子要上学。 我们没有时间坐下来思考‘生命的真正意义’。都快忙坏了， 哪有时间思考！！！
