I am not bullet-proof. It’s true – I value her good heart – but I know myself very well. I cannot take negativity from another person for a very long period of time. I am a born pessimist. The glass is half-empty. Type A personality. But because I want to practice Feng Shui, I trained myself to be an Optimist. It is not my natural self, so any negativity will pollute my energy, and drag me down. If I am down, I can pull myself up because I can train and re-train myself. This is part of good Feng Shui too! You must know yourself well and cut things off while you still can. I regret to lose her. I truly do! But I can always try to contact her again next time. Right now, her husband and herself are so bogged down with their problems, they can’t even think straight. What sort of lousy friend am I to keep myself away when they are having problems? Well, I have tried more than a decent person’s effort to help them. Good Feng Shui is about being compassionate, being kind and being understanding.  It will be ideal if I could help my best friend out of her situation because I love her, and I genuinely want to help her. But good Feng Shui is not about ruining yourself in the name of helping a good friend. Think straight! What if in future she does not want to be my friend anymore? Come on! Are we school children: I don’t friend you, you don’t friend me? 😅 I am sure she will understand why I had to do what I did. The reason is because people who are like them – stuck in their situation – other people will leave them sooner or later. When enough people leave, it will be a wake-up call to my friend and her husband that they have to stop moping and get moving!

其实好风水也包括周围有好朋友，如果找到心底好的朋友真是好上加好！朋友有难，我们是一定要挺胸帮忙。当然！这才能称得上‘好朋友’！同样的：要有好风水你需要慈悲心，同情心也需要谅解别人的处境。你多帮忙别人（不止是帮忙好友，连旁者，动物你也可以帮忙），你自己也获得，可能不是金钱的收获，而是跟金钱一样重要的：一个感激快乐的心（不止你的，还有你朋友的！）不过你帮忙的方式要有理智，那些为了朋友连自己命都可以不要。。。你是电视看太多了！我们是普普通人，面对的问题很小很少，不是电视上的富豪或黑社会老大面对的庞大问题啦！有关好风水，帮忙朋友最重要：了解你自己。我是天生悲观主义者，妈妈很传统，在我长大过程很少称赞我，我婆婆妈妈那些年代是逆向心理学。我应为要练风水成功，我训练我自己变成乐观者，不过这不是原来的我。我知道我的极限，到此为止。如果下次有机会，我会再联络她，到是我才解释给她听。如果她不能了解或不能接受，哪我也没有办法。总之。。。现在不可以。我没有力气，也不想让他们夫妻俩‘攻击’我很难训练的风水‘好气’！最后我传告那些处境和我朋友一样的读者们。不要把你或你家人的问题不短倾倒在别人身上，我可以担保的是你的朋友一个一个一定会离开。不是我们不爱你，而是真的我们太累了，而且我们觉得我们真的不可以帮到你，我们也会感到气馁。同样的，如果你是朋友的出气桶，埋怨桶，你别傻傻呆住将来不能自拔，听我的，好吗?先走为妙🕺