A relationship is all about trust. If you can’t trust me, then why did you marry me? You know, I’ve been married for 21 years, which is a long time to be alone with a man. We have ‘no kids’ to add spice and variety to our ‘couple life’. Yet people often remark we are newlyweds, always holding hands and leaning (literally ‘hugging’) on each other! 😍 And it’s not that superficial only, come talk to either of us and you know we have each other’s back covered. A woman must wear many hats, and no matter that they say there are no secrets between couples, a very important thing that a woman must learn to do is to remain mysterious. A woman of mystery.
感情最重要是信任。 我们时常听夫妻对彼此说： 如果你爱我， 你就要相信我， 要不然你为什么要跟我结婚？我已经结婚二十一年了，每天每天只面对一个男人， 时间算很长了吧！ 你们说， 对吗？先生和我有没有孩子 （这有原因的————————）在我们的‘单调’的情侣生活添加多样性。然而，我们感情真的很好， 很多人说我们是新婚夫妇，总是手牵着手。当然， 这不仅是表面上的，如果你们有机会与我们谈话，你知道我们互相扶持。做一个女人要戴很多帽子。。。不管人家说夫妻之间没有秘密，一个女人一定要学会保持自己的谜， 做个神秘女人。🕵
I baulk at some women’s interpretation of no secrets in their married life. If you think about it, men (mostly) are really visual creatures, and they are first attracted to a woman (you) because you caught their eye. Pretty, or sexy, or slim, or clean-faced, or fresh-faced, or a good and decent girl… whatever! Yeah, I get it. You want to be yourself when you marry a man who promises to love you and only you. A man who promises to accept you for the person that you are. But I don’t get it. How can a woman use the toilet when your man is in the same bathroom? In Singapore, with a few exceptions, the toilet and the bathroom are in the same room. Doing a #1 AND a #2 in front of your man?! I don’t want my man to smell my pee or my pong! 😵😳
I think that if you have to, brushing teeth is ‘okay’ in front of your man, provided you don’t keep talking to him with a mouth that is full of foamy toothpaste. Is it really sexy? And if you have to do a #1, at least try to hold your urine and let it slowly dribble out, instead of a whole rain of waste water hitting the toilet pan. LOL! But it’s true!!! It’s the same as when we use a public toilet, you hear the patron in the next cubicle giving a fart or ‘shooting’ all that urine out. I don’t believe it, if you tell me that nothing goes through your mind when you hear those ‘foreign’ sounds from the next cubicle! 😅
Ya, okay. So sometimes when I need to go, I need to go. Like when we travel and there is only 1 toilet. I always tell my husband to turn around and don’t peep at me when I do my #1. But in my 21 years of marriage, I have never done a #2 in front of my husband. And I always take a shower, or I wash my hands with a lot of soap when I am done, to ‘freshen’ the pong-filled air. Sometimes when I need to, I’ll even squeeze shampoo into the toilet bowl and give it another flush. Ah, a smell of fresh air! It’s courtesy that I don’t leave a smelly toilet for him to use. You know, now I remember that I watched an advertisement in Australia one time. It shows a successful career woman who always carries around a small bottle of air freshener, and she would spray freshness every time she did a #2. It is a funny ad, but it does prove my point. Don’t let anyone smell your pong, because you will be remembered for the smell of your pong! You don’t want that! 😂
我不懂。 有些女人对‘婚姻生活中夫妻没有秘密’的翻译真令我感到爽然困扰。仔细想一想，大多数男人第一次被一个女人吸引， 真的是‘视觉上’，无论一个女人（你，我）是什么原因吸引到自己的男人： 可能是人长的漂亮，或性感，或苗条，或善良的脸，或新鲜的脸。。。 愿意真的很多！是， 我明白！我们嫁给一个男人， 他承诺爱我们到永远， 承诺接受我们的本人， 不是我们的漂亮脸蛋或火辣身材。 结婚后， 我们想做我自己。但我真的不明白。。。一个女人和她的男人在同一间浴室里时，女人如何做大号？！😰 在新加坡，除少数例外，厕所和浴室都是同一个房。在男人面前做一号二号？！我不想让我的先生闻到我的尿味或我的屁屁味！
如果没有别的办法，一定要在男人面前刷牙，我不会不停的说话。 我一定会快快解决我的卫生， 让后‘跑人’。 满嘴泡沫真的性感吗？旅行时， 只有一间浴室， 如果真的尿急， 在他面前做一号， 我会试着把我的尿液慢慢‘流’出来，不是像下一阵大雨冲到马桶里！😅 我是说真的！ 你想想我们用公共厕所时， 是不是有同样的情况？ 听到隔壁卧室有放屁或冲浪的尿液“射击声”， 你不觉得很尴尬吗？ 我不相信啦！😂😂😂
我刚结婚时， 我真的很注重这‘神秘女人’ 的概念， 不过现在比较老了， 有时真的尿急控住不了。 我会叫他转身， 也会警告他不准偷看我。 哈哈！ 但是， 我结婚二十一年， 先生从来没有看过我上二号。我也从来没有看先生用厕所。在厕所里的时间是属于自己的， 我们就给彼此那一点‘空间’， 好吗？ 我记得在澳洲， 我曾经看过一则广告， 是一位很成功的职业女性，她包包里总是携带一小瓶空气清新剂，随时可以使用。这是一个有趣的广告，但它证明了我的观点。不要让任何人闻到你的尿味或屁屁味，因为你是一个很可爱的女人， 你是一位整天散发香气的女人， 你每天每次都是美美香香的， 记住： 你不要任何人记得你的臭味！
